Tips for New Dads

From WikiParenting

So many fathers out there have the potential to be really great daddies. The problem is often mommies are overly-protective of their babies, and daddies feel overwhelmed at the prospect of holding and caring for such a teensy, little person. Dads, buck up, and read on for some encouraging tips on taking care of your new child.

• Tip One

[edit] This is not a porcelain doll

Your little angel is not as breakable as you may think. Infants are actually rather resilient and tough. If you are still worried about cuddling your infant, ask your pediatrician or a good family friend to show you a few holds.

• Tip Two

[edit] The emotional roller coaster

Roughly 3 to 5 days after birth, your wife is going to go through some emotional changes. All of a sudden, her body has realized that not only is she no longer pregnant, but she needs to be making milk too. The hormones in her body are going to go crazy, and she may be quite touchy for a few days. She may start crying at the slightest thing, or get mad at you for sneezing, especially if the baby is sleeping. Rest assured that this is normal and it is usually a short phase. However, if you believe that your wife is experiencing post-partum depression or psychosis, it is important to get her the help she needs so that she can take better care of you and your new family.

• Tip Three

[edit] Dads can have roller coasters too

While it is not especially common, it is normal for new dads to experience baby blues too. Your whole life has changed and it is okay to feel a little anxious about what the future holds and how your life has already changed. If you feel like you need help, it is important to speak with your doctor about your options, and allow him/her to help you get back on the right track.

• Tip Four

[edit] You can do it all

Well, everything except breastfeed. Other than that, you can do anything she can. While you may do it differently, that doesn’t mean that you are doing it wrong. You can change a diaper, hold a crying baby, cuddle her, get him dressed, pretty much everything.

• Tip Five

[edit] Be involved

You should feel involved in this new life you have created. If you are feeling left out, you need to talk with your wife. Odds are she has become so absorbed in the baby that she has unintentionally neglected to involve you. She doesn’t do it on purpose, she still loves you and needs you and wants you to be there for her. You are still important in her life.

• Tip Six

[edit] Be Supportive about Breastfeeding

Every woman wants to feel supported, especially in cases of how she wants to feed her child. Tell your wife how proud you are of her for giving your child the best available. Try to screen comments from people who may mean well, but are negative towards her.

• Tip Seven

[edit] The Sleeping Problem

Let’s face it, neither of you are going to be getting much sleep soon. But, there are ways you can help your wife and infant out. If you are bottle feeding, perhaps take over one night feeding. Even if your wife stays at home during the day, she is still working, as are you, and you both deserve the best sleep you can get. If your wife is nursing she will have to feed the baby, but you can help by bringing the baby to her, and putting him back in his crib when she is ready.

• Tip Eight

[edit] When you are not alone

Many babies are not the first to be born into a family. Often, there are older children in the home who also need to be cared for. It is a very nice gesture for you to try and take over some extra responsibility for the older kids. Maybe help them with homework, or take them outside and play ball so mom and baby can take a nap. Remind your wife that the housework can wait, the newborn infant is more important than a mopped kitchen floor.

• Tip Nine

[edit] Help screen visitors

Especially in those first few days home, try to limit the number of people who want to come trooping through your house. Unless your wife feels up to all of the commotion, help her by keeping the number of guests to a minimum.

• Tip Ten

[edit] Keep those lines open

Communication is extremely necessary in any good relationship and is crucial in one that is going through changes. The birth of a new baby, whether your first or tenth, is no different. Keep talking and letting each other know how it’s going. Don’t neglect your relationship for the baby. After those first couple of weeks, things will settle down. It won’t be easy, but it will get easier.